At first, it brought on a few
fights, as I thought it was an act of possession and he wanting to stake his
claim on me out rightly. While he thought I was either being prudish or afraid
that I was cheating on him and didn’t want the other guy to spot us in such
lock of romance. However, he is gradually beginning to understand that it just
makes me uneasy, while I am learning that he just constantly needs to maintain
a physical contact with me.
Though we are working through our
peeves, I find myself pondering if maybe there is something wrong with me. So I asked a few people and found this isn’t
unique to me alone. A lot of other people too suffer from gross discomfort when
their partner displays such outright personal affectations. One of the most
common is their discomfort in displaying images of themselves with the Boo. A very funny girl said, she would
only concede to putting up a picture of her boo if it was a group picture. That
way, people could either only dismiss it flippantly or it would leave them
questioning which one he might be.
A guy says, since he’s been in relationships
with other people for years, he had never displayed affections publicly for any
of his past girlfriends and if he starts to do so now with his new girl, he
worries the old ones might be peeved at him. Asking questions like, were they
not good enough to be showcased when they were with him? Why this one?
For others, like a guy I know, he thinks it’s not manly showing affection. But they don’t mind their women displaying
their love for them far and wide while they themselves hold back, basking in
the euphoria that “they got her”. Do
you not think she too would want to enjoy that feeling? To know “i got him”?
These and so much more could be our
reasons for our undercover leanings to romance or as a friend of mine will call
it Barb wire love. There’s this
curious thing though, one day when you feel so much love in your heart for
someone, will you still fight the urge to want to shout to the whole world that
this is your boo? Some of us are worried about people thinking us to be seeking
for attention so everyone knows you have a beau, so what? Have you forgotten that “na only you waka come this world and no only you go waka go?” Please do what makes you happy, I mean truly
happy.
By the way, maybe portraying yourself as unattached is probably why you get all the unwarranted solicitations by random people who hit on you left, right, center. Everyone sees you as available, and still open to playing the field and when they do that, you get pissed.
It is however important that you try to keep all PDAs clean and as nicely discreet as you can so you do not cause others to feel too embarrassed. Let them want what you two have not to be grossed out by the decadence and depravity you showcase.
A big cheer to all lovers who are happy to show their love. And to all the tough lovers, please go all out and show you are proud of your lover today *winks*
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