As virtuous men pass mildly away,
And whisper to their souls to go,
Whilst
some of their sad friends do say
The breath goes now, and some say, No;
Whenever I feel bad, all I want to do is
write and vent out my anger and frustration in the best way I can. Usually it
takes me hitting rock bottom to come up with new philosophies and perceptions.
I lost a friend recently and it got me
thinking, what is the essence of life, why should we struggle and hustle so
much and in the end something as trivial as a headache hands one away into the
cold hands of death. However, in my lamentations I started to understand a few
things.
Firstly, life is a race, more like survival
of the fittest, but there is no guarantee that the fittest wins the race. The
most important thing is your deeds and the lives you touch while running the
race because when you are gone only memories and deeds remain.
Secondly I came to understand the meaning of
‘everybody dies but not everybody lives’. Living in itself encompasses just
being yourself, being happy, not conforming to individual nor societal
pressures, as in the end, your life story is about you and not the society. Therefore,
why let the society or peer pressure dictate or plot your life and how you live
it? Eventually, it is your life, and your story, and you are the chief story
teller, so it is all about you and the lives you touched.
We plan tomorrow like we have a clue, sure if
anybody told my friend she would not cross over to 2014, she would have laughed
and said ‘you are not serious’ with her soft and gentle voice. Do not wait till
tomorrow to tell someone how you feel about them, because they may be gone by
then. Push boundaries, add value to yourself, be the best you can be, pursue
your dreams, dance in the rain, give someone a smile, take a leap of faith, be
hopeful, for eventually we shall all go. Make your time here count, truly live
your life.
Permit me to bring in Pareto’s 80:20 management
principles which states that 20% of our activities accounts for 80% of results,
thus we should focus on the 20% of our best assets and through them the 80%
results can be attained.
I grieve deep, but it can never bring back
the souls of my loved ones gone, I conclude with the wise words of John
Donne(1611), “ours is a valediction forbidden mourning”, till we meet on the
resurrection morning, Adios.
