I watched in
awe Wendy Williams’ interview with a certain LGBTQ lady who had been awarded or
I guess been rated as among the most powerful women in a top Worldwide magazine
(Pardon the scantiness of information. Much as I tried, Google couldn’t furnish
me with those details). When Wendy asked her how she felt being conferred such
an honor, her response impressed me so much. She said something in the lines of
‘‘so glad I’m being thought of as powerful, than merely beautiful’’.
In this day
and age where everyone is obsessed with the perfect makeup, the best designer
clothing, a big fat booty, an itty bitty tiny waist, a high number of likes on
Instagram and SnapChat, it pains me that not many women bother about developing
themselves intellectually.
Many people
I find guzzle down complements, they bask in the knowledge that they are considered
beautiful, glamorous and stylish rather than being referred to as intelligent,
smart, business savvy, or entrepreneurs.
And some who may in passing enjoy being called sharp, their be all and
end all is first to be reassured that their physical attributes are noted,
admired, and above all, stated.
For really
hot people, they almost always get anything they want without much work. Seeing
as people always fall over themselves to please them, they never realize that
some people have to claw and inch their way up into the positions they take for
granted.
As with
every analogy there is always a deviant case. There are people who are gorgeous,
smart to the T, and yet work extremely hard. In fact, I know a certain young
lady who asked a friend who is a recruiter to help find her a job and his
response was, ‘why do you need a job? After all you’re already pretty’. Such unguarded statements make even go-getting
pretty girls to become unambitious.
If these
women who are doubly blessed- being both pretty and hardworking, ask someone for
help in starting up a business, they are most likely to get a response like ‘‘but
you’re pretty, why do you need this job?’’.
Have you
heard of cases where classmates gossip and make snide comments about pretty
girls who perform exceptionally well in school? You see, people cannot
comprehend why anybody can be pretty, fashionable and yet score high in tests
and examinations. So that means there must be a palm they are greasing to get
ahead.
Now, this
is the cross that overly gorgeous people need to bear, if you are totally
pretty, it means you have to work extra to prove your mettle. People do not
always consider physically stunning people as intelligent and can one fault
them? Because a certain desire to put so much fuss in the way you appear makes
people think you aren’t cut out for hard work. So intelligent and gorgeous
people are forced to either downplay their gorgeousness or work extra hard that
their intelligence over shadows the outward comeliness.
I am not
one to advice anyone to downplay their beauty; it is God’s gift to you. However,
do not think your physical look is your only bargaining chip, because it could
be both your blessing and your curse. So don’t be afraid to have some depth or
to have a personality. Some people think they are too good looking to bother
having a personality. So they wasp through life hitched onto the complements
and praises showered on them by others.
Beauty is
said to be only skin deep. Even though society makes it seem as though once you
are pretty you have attained something valuable, I urge that you not be afraid
to have a strong opinion about things and have the courage to speak up for
them. Importantly, do not be afraid of being known as smart and intelligent it
is far more important than being merely beautiful. Beauty does not get you a
Nobel Prize for Peace, Literature, and advancement in Physics, Genetics or Engineering.
