Written By Ope Mimi Ogunz
A conversation with a friend
of mine inspired this write up, so y’all please enjoy the read and maybe learn
a thing or two....
I
belong to the school of thought which believes that ‘All Women Are Gold Diggers, We Just Have Different Tools’. However, these days I believe girls just
go too far and they find it difficult drawing that fine line between what’s
attainable and what’s clearly outrageous.
It was a fine Sunday afternoon, my
girlfriends and I were hanging out at the pool as usual, sipping on our cocktails
and sharing gossips. I noticed Daniela wasn’t
contributing to the conversation which is so unlike her, so I turned to face
her and noticed she had this forlorn look on her face. I asked what was wrong with
her and she said “Opsy, I think am
cursed, guys don’t give me money when ever I ask for it”. We were all taken
aback because among us friends she was the OBO (omo baba olowo), and she works
with a nice multinational organization. Therefore, she was the last person we
were expecting to say such. With that, she
caught the remaining twos attention.
She started venting on the
cruelty of guys. We all knew she has been harboring this fantasy to spend her
vacation at Barbados and then visit Milan before coming back. Problem is, she
wanted someone to foot her bills (and please note, she no get bf oh) although
she has a lot of nice young guys around her. Apparently, she ‘taxed’ them each
for nothing less than 700k, and none had come through with providing her with
the money. The one who came close gave her 300k. This and all the previous
times she had outrageously ‘taxed’ guys for money and got nothing brought her
to the being ‘cursed’ conclusion.
Janet
busted out laughing. Temi had a perplexed look on her face and I was definitely
pissed! I couldn’t stop myself from asking “Are these guys your father or
husband? Abi o ti ya werey ni? Why
should you ask 3 guys who you aint officially dating (toasters) for such an
amount of money and you have the guts to be sad they didn’t give you the money?”
Thanks to the Long Island Ice tea in my system, my fury knew no bonds.
Later that evening, Janet called me
claiming she thought I was too harsh with my outburst at Daniela. This got me thinking,
why do we girls do what we do? Daniela earns about as much as these young guys she’s
‘taxing’ for money.
Most
21st century women think we are so smart and can get what ever we
want from guys. It is true that we can, but do we stop to consider that guys also
have feelings and emotions? Do we take time to understand that they aren’t as
stupid as we like to paint them? We always claim “no b him dey toast me?” But should that be the basis to cheat and
exploit him?
I am no saint. Not at all,
but I just feel if we have to ‘tax’ guys we should do it reasonably and
constructively in a way that wouldn’t make them think they are being turned maga. However, if it is an aristo, biko no problem! ‘tax’ all you
want. But not decent young men who genuinely like you.
With this I refer back to my earlier
statement, in as much as I believe that all women are gold diggers and what
differentiates us are our various digging tools, I still believe tools chosen
to be used should be narrowed down to the people involved.
Cheers…
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